cash cow

I tell my parents that I have a secret account - a place where I squirrel away a little money here and there so that when the time comes, I'll have the cash I need to buy some cattle. They are not particularly impressed by my foresight. My mom asks when I'm planning to do this exactly. My father suggests I go stick my head in the dairy case at the store and take a few deep breaths -- nothing like the smell of stale milk to snap you back to reality. They laugh, but I'm serious. Few things evoke in me such simultaneous longing and contentment -in perfect harmony- as cows, and every version of the future that I imagine for myself includes cattle.

Grahamcracker told me once that my grandfather loved the sight of cattle grazing on a hillside, that he could watch them for hours. I think of my grandfather, a difficult man, and all his characteristics that my father didn't inherit, didn't pass down to me. When I sift through my memories of my grandfather - of his hollering & cussing - and add it to what I know of my father's childhood, I can not see the line from him to me. My father is nothing like his father and I am like my father, so by the transitive property of inequalities, I am nothing like my grandfather, right? Save this genetic bovine blip, right?

Maybe I should get a milk cow, just to practice, until I get my herd. We could have fresh milk and butter! My mom reminds me that I don't live with them, that I live in the city, and that she is not getting up at 4:30 to milk it. My father says that when he was a child he made butter out of the raw milk from their cow and put it on his popcorn and even the thought of it still makes him want to throw up to this day. Fine. I want beef cattle and not dairy cattle, anyway. Just you wait and see.

Driving home from work tonight through the dark city, I think about all the hours I just worked, about my tiny little fund, and all the hours more I'll have to work to be able to buy even a single Red Angus heifer, never mind a bull. For a few more minutes I worry about my non-existent herd dying of starvation (because I miscalculated the amount of alfalfa hay we'd need to get us through the long winter). What if I ruin my imaginary children's lives by making them mend fences after school? My parents created a childhood for my sister, brothers, and me so vastly different than their own and here I am, trying to go back to where my father came from, to the plains states where many of my mother's father's people still live. I flip on the radio to distract myself and when Diane Rehm's voice fills the car, I almost flip it back off immediately. Her guest is talking about his mother, though, so I wait, my hand hovering over the knob. Family. It is so complicated and yet so simple. We are like them except for all the things we do to not be like them. I turn it off. I don't need to hear another thing.